Craig allegedly tapped his foot, brushed his shoe against an undercover officer's shoe and repeatedly waved his hand under the stall divider.

A right wing conservative anti-queer elected official, Craig continues to deny that he was seeking sex and has declared that he is "not gay... I never have been gay".

Hopefully, this is totally true. We would hate it if this man became a representation of the norm for the queer community. 

So what are some of his other options? 

1.   "I am a self-loathing homosexual who has remained in the closet my entire life and I let these evil homoerotic desires make me momentarily insane for sex."

2.   "I am a bisexual man with feelings for men that can not be suppressed, so instead of dealing with it as an adult I lurk around men's rooms seeking other like minded men."

3.   "I am a straight man who has a fetish for man-on-man sex in risky locations."

4.   "I'm just really confused about all this. I really don't know why I have these feelings. I know that they're wrong but I just can't seem to get rid of them."

While any and all of these possibilities may explain, even, in part, Senator Craig's behavior, his issues are really his own. However, the queer community in America does have to be concerned, unfortunately, with all the media attention that this type of behavior has given to the men who participate in this type of men's room activity and this activity being labeled as "gay sex."

Let's be very clear. This bathroom activity is not the norm for queer men.  An informal survey, I conducted this week indicated that the majority of queer men questioned have never known that there were universal symbols for man-on-man sex in men's rooms. 

We also need to clear up another misnomer. There is a big difference between "gay sex" and "man-on-man sex."  Gay, queer or homosexual sex is rooted in both a physical and emotional attraction between the two parties.  Man-on-man sex is just that; it is two men having a physical release--without an emotional attraction, a desire to partner with another man or any other reason for human connection. It's simply "just do it and move on." Psychologists can confirm that this activity can be found in both subgroups of both homosexual men and heterosexual men.

That's right --- the dirty little secret is out --- lots of heterosexual men enjoy man-on-man sex every once in a while. 

Lastly, what of this behavior of men having sex in public bathrooms? 

QUEERtimes holds the position that it is absolutely wrong in all circumstances! 

A queer friend of mine likened it to an act of terrorism.  Imagine an unsuspected kid being on the wrong side of the stall divider.  Imagine his fear, his terror.  While some will search their minds for reasons as to why this type of activity exists and try to justify it, we in the queer community must condemn and reject it. 

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